You are not bad at English. You are new to these situations.
Most adults who move to an English speaking country can already communicate. What stops them is not vocabulary. It is a small set of moments that arrive fast and leave no time to think.
There is a moment many people know well. You order a coffee. The person behind the counter says something quick, and you smile and say yes, and only later do you work out that they asked whether you wanted it to have here. Nothing went wrong. Nobody noticed. But you carry it for the rest of the day, and it sits with you as proof that your English is not good enough. That reading is wrong, and it is worth putting down early, because it slows people more than any gap in their grammar ever will.
Think about what actually happened. You had to hear an unfamiliar sentence, spoken fast, in a noisy room, from a person you had never met, while holding your wallet and watching a queue build behind you. That is a demanding piece of listening by any measure. A person who has lived here their whole life would also miss it if the machine was loud enough. The difference is that they would ask again without thinking twice about it, and you froze because asking again felt like an admission.
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